remember that you are not to blame, that there are good guys and we
personal thanks to Jason for BEING there - for not criticizing me EVER,
for giving support where support was desperately needed, for listening
to me cry and scream in rage and not telling me to stop, for not using
the situation to take advantage -- for being that support I most
needed in that most trying time of recovery.
I've been reading the various articles that ... have [been] put
[regarding roofies] [o]n different sites. I've been moved, overwhelmed,
and rendered somewhat speechless by the darkness of the nightmare
heart goes out -- I'm not quite sure to whom, ... but to whomever I
my best thoughts and prayers. With compassion ...
I cannot understand evil and destructiveness -- it just doesn't compute
with me. Perhaps I have inhabited a more sheltered world than I thought
-- for I haven't been exposed to the real world of the macabre. To be
if I experienced ... the remainder of my life's work might then be
by hatred and obsession. . . .I didn't realize that the 'drug' is as
as it seems to be. And true, I thought only it as a mechanism for a guy
to rape a lady. I didn't realize that it is being used to kill or maim.
Isn't this an illegal drug?
What I would say to someone who's dealing with the aftermath? I would
a survivor, man or woman, it doesn't matter. Your age doesn't matter.
matters is that you've survived an act of violence and personal abuse,
and the way you deal with that will be unique to you. Please know that
there are many people who care. You've met some of them already ...
own personal guardian angels. There are others you haven't met...who
a flame alive in their hearts for you. It's the same flame that lives
you. It may have been dimmed a bit by what's happened to you, but it's
there. Or it may be burning even more brightly.
love, without condition...without regard for anything except that
a fellow human who's in some pain or needs a hug or a comforting
just needs someone to listen and be there for you. It's the ancient
of that common bond between all of us...that golden thread of spirit
binds us to each other.
comfort where you find it. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need.
your feelings - grief, anger, despair...whatever they are, they are
Trust in your own process as you heal...whatever that is for you. And
to let your light shine again. As Marianne Williamson said so well,
not just in some of us, it's in everyone. We are children of God. And
we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people
to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence
your story...have no doubt that the power to heal...everything you will
ever need...is right there inside you ...all you need to do is
Let go lightly into life, and allow yourself to become...to fully
creator that you truly are.Tom can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Keep your mind free of the poison affect of [this] life experience,
are things to learn that belong to the domain of wisdom, which will
often bring forward a feeling of humility rather than righteous
Protect your sense of self for properly placed that will empower you ...
Bob: The only thing I would say is --
Despite a country and world that SEEMS to have run amok, there is still
a very high percentage of men (and women) who are decent, hard-working
normal citizens. the world's history since the beginning of recorded
is punctuated with abnormal incidents of barbaric behavior or man's
to man; and the reason that these things continue to be "news" is
that are NOT the norm, but rather the exception.
heart in the fact, that despite stressful challenges facing each of us
every day, the vast majority goes through each day without hurting
committing any crimes, and doing the things a civilized society demands
that they do. If we continue to strive to make our world a better place
to live, and continue to witness the individual efforts of men and
who are hopeful of a calmer, rational atmosphere of thought and action,
we will continue to have a majority of normalcy amongst our citizenry.
...Place YOUR life as the goal to which all lesser goals are the means
and the standard to which all lessor goals are evaluated. Your life is
your ultimate value. Please do not forsake it. That which furthers your
life is good, that which threatens it is evil. Be good and work toward
What happened to you should not ever happen to anyone.
Education and awareness are probably the most powerful way of fighting
such a corrosive assault on society. To this affect, the exposure
good...I'm always amazed that people can at times be so sick and
...the more awareness, the less chance there is of what happened ...
...I know in the criminal mind he thinks he was doing something that is
acceptable (To take advantage of someone), and not really a crime, like
holding up a liquor store. Their thought processes are so warped.